THE WEDDING RECEPTION (26.11.11)

The wedding reception at my house in Terengganu happened last Saturday and the crowd who came were more than my parents estimated... Mom and dad thought that less people would come since it's the raining season and it has been pouring for days... However, people kept on coming from afternoon til night... 

I was a bit sad to see non of my friends from school came but serves me right for not being a good friend... I've kinda lost contact with all of them since I spent most of my time before this being in Melaka...  Now that I'm staying in Terengganu, I'll make sure to reconnect with them and also to keep the bond I have with my friends in Melaka... 

Anyway, what cheered me up the most on that day was the arrival of my best friend Ridhwan! He came!! and he brought Epul (the human GPS) and Cedric with him... Thanks guys for coming :-) I appreciate it... and I know u guys appreciated the free meal :-P

I owe it big time to mom and dad for making most of the preparations for the reception... They started preparing months ago... They took care of the invitation cards and delivered them to friends and relatives, they book the tent for the day, they bought the cows, they did everything... I love them so much and I feel so lucky to have such loving and supporting parents...

On the day of the reception, two cows were brought down and cooked... With the help of my family members and close neighbors, the gulai daging, acar timun, ayam goreng, bubur barli dan jagung, kerabu perut and air sirap were made just in time and they were awesomely yummy... The bubur was a hit... 

The reception was referred as Majlis Menyambut Menantu and so, most of the guest (especially the women) wanted to see and get to know the bride... Mom set up a meeting place for them to do that and it's sort of a pelamin... At this meeting place, the bride waited for the guest to come and greeted them... During the reception at her place, my wifey walked around and greeted the guest but for this one, she was required to sit down and the guest would come to her... It's indeed a new experience for her (and for me also...)

The ceremony was beautiful and I would like to thank everyone who came and helped... Thank u dear family members especially mom and dad... Thank u dear friends... Thank u helpful neighbors... Pray that our marriage would last until death tear us apart :-)

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I'm Getting Married

I'm Married

Pictures taken from Ridhwan's wall :-P

THE SOLEMNIZATION (11.11.11)

The akad nikah was the most nerve wrecking step for me to becoming a husband... 

"Aku terima nikah Azim binti Mohammad Allaudin dengan mas kahwin tiga ratus ringgit tunai"

There, the words do appear simple but saying it in one breath was like the hardest thing on earth to do at that moment because of the pressure... What kind of pressure u ask? Guys, u'll know when u get there... The pressure to not screw it up, the pressure from the full of anticipation crowd, the pressure from tok kadi and etc... No wonder there are so many who couldn't do it just once...

Nonetheless, I did it... Only once... Like a boss... Owh yeah~

The most fearful thing for the groom is of course, the questions from the tok kadi... Before the akad, after the khutbah had been read and a short briefing from the tok kadi, finally the questions were asked... 

"Apakah rukun nikah?"

"Apakah rukun iman?"

"Apakah rukun Islam?"

Three simple questions... It was all good for me because I had memorized all of the answers... My friends asked me to and I'm so thankful for that... Though I did stutter a bit because I was extremely nervous... My cousin told me that I looked pale at that time... 

Actually, it's up to the tok kadi to whether to ask questions or not and what questions to give to the groom... Some of them don't ask questions and prefer to go straight to the akad... Whereas, some prefer to give so much questions just to confirm that the groom is truly Muslim... My friend told me that in the state of Johor, the tok kadi will ask questions or interview the bride and groom during the registration for kahwin... So, Johor friends, better be prepared before u send in the registration forms...

After the akad, came the "Upacara Membatalkan Air Sembahyang"... This is the part when the groom put the wedding ring and/or bracelet onto the bride's finger or wrist... It was really really awkward for me and my wifey because everyone's watching at that time... I came to her and gave salam, "Assalammualaikum...", put on the bracelet and wedding ring and lastly kissed her on the forehead... 

THE WEDDING RECEPTION (12.11.11)

The next day was the wedding reception at my wifey's house in Balakong, Cheras... When I woke up that morning, I still couldn't believe that I'm finally married... It felt like it was all a dream... A really sweet dream... I told myself, "A really huge step has been taken... Now to conquer the rest of the challenges... We're doing this together..."


I was wonderfully happy to see most of my friends there... Being surrounded by most of my wifey's family members who I've just met once or twice was a bit awkward, so it felt so good to see familiar faces... We laughed and hugged and took pictures... This is why close friends and family members must come to weddings... Without them, the bride and groom could feel a bit lonely... Thank u so much for coming guys... I really really appreciate it... :-)

Being the center of attention, all camera lenses and flashes were directed on us... Yeap, I have so many pictures posted on my Facebook wall... Soon, I myself shall upload more photos... Need to wait for the photographer to finish editing them...

The ceremony was so beautiful and I love my family members and my friends so much... Thanks again for those who helped making it happen and those who came to celebrate... The reception at my place at Terengganu will be on the 26th of November... Be sure to come guys :-)


Related post : I'm Getting Married

Dear family members and friends, I would to invite u all to my wedding~

Yes... I am getting married... Just broke the news to everyone a couple of weeks ago (on the 15th of Oct to be exact) during my friends' (Aafina and Aimi) birthday party and it made all of my friends shit bricks... They were all shocked most probably because me and my girl never said anything about it... Never even hinted anything... and then, BAMMMM!!! we dropped the news on them and it went Nagasaki and Hiroshima... We won surprise of the year... Thank u...

So, the reception on my honey's side will be on 12th of November 2011 (Saturday) which is next month... Gosh... I'm nervous... Of course I'm nervous, it's a wedding! I'm taking a huge motherfucking step here... At the same time, u have no idea how happy I am... Haha...

Here's the venue... 

The reception on my side will be on the 26th of November 2011 (Saturday) at my house...

168, Felda Kerteh 4,
23300 Ketengah Jaya,
Dungun, Terengganu

In case u didn't notice, I live in a Felda area... so, good luck finding my place... Nahh... I'm sure u'll find it... No sweat...

Different people reacted differently from the news of our wedding... Those who were at the birthday party went crazy... Crazy like screaming and shouting... Totally expected... I cannot forget the look on Aimi's face... She just kept staring at me and my girl like she's hoping it was all a dream... 

The boys reacted differently... Alief, Fadzly and Aswadi (poyo guna nama betul) told me how challenged they are at the fact that I'm gonna be a husband soon... I can understand Alief's pressure... Not gonna elaborate on that... Relax guys... Your time will come and when it comes, I'll be there... with my wife... Haha...

Married people like Kak Mimi and Kak Effa gave me so many advices after they interviewed me about how the idea of the wedding started... "You know that you cannot undo this after it has been done... Right?", Kak Mimi asked... Ridhwan asked the same thing too... Yeah guys, I know... I know... Don't worry... Then, I was poured with loads of based-on-experience stuff... "Fahmi, kahwin and bercouple ni lain tau...", said Kak Effa with a concerned look... 

Yep, I know Kak Effa... People kept telling me that... My girl told me repeatedly that people say the first 5 years is the hardest... Survive that period and u'll be happy for the rest of your lives... So I'm preparing myself mentally, emotionally and physically for it... Thanks for the heads up people... Really appreciate that... 

Okey now, let's change the topic to how this idea of marriage came about... 

It all started in July... She asked me whether I wanted to get engaged... I told her, I don't really like being engaged... Let's get married instead... She was super excited and immediately told her parents... I was surprised at how supportive her parents were... They were okey with it and went to see my parents at the first chance they got... Both my parents and her parents discussed about it...

At first, my parents were quite reluctant on the idea because we proposed the marriage to be held after Hari Raya Aidilfitri... Hari Raya ke-3 to be exact... It was too sudden for them to digest... Couldn't blame them, it was huge news... They rejected the proposal mainly because my cousin was getting married on the 3rd day of Raya... The idea of marriage kinda died down after that...

Then, after a few weeks, when I got back from Melaka, my parents and I had a bit of discussion... They asked me, "What's the rush?? Did anything happen? Did anything BAD happen???"... I knew that they're worried because they knew so many people who wed out of wrong reasons... As parents, they have a right to feel that way... I told them not to worry because we're getting married not because of that... Everything is fine mom and dad... "Lambat pun tak apa... Tahun depan pun boleh...", I assured them... 

A few days later, dad suddenly checked the calendar... "Tarikh 11 November okey tak??"... Huh?? I thought my parents were going to suggest that it will be held next year... Haha... Eventually, I guess it's because of my determination, they decided that it's okey to do it this year... The date's kinda awesome too...

11. 11. 11

Pandai juga abah aku ni pilih tarikh... 

After that, the preparations started... Abah got me some forms to be filled from Jabatan Agama Terengganu... The forms were written in Jawi... Luckily I can still read Jawi... 

The most memorable and informational was the kursus kahwin... We did it together at Putrajaya... Though I kinda fell asleep like many times but the course really taught me loads of stuff about marriage, and the preparations... The lecturers were great - some were really funny, while others were dead boring but give so many useful advices... One particular lecturer from the Health Department was very interesting to listen too... We agreed that he lectured as if he was high or drunk... It was damn hilarious... 

We spent our sweet time looking for barang hantaran... We decided to get ourselves things that won't end up being useless after the ceremony's over... Thus, we looked for stuff that will be useful for work such as a stylish bag that can fit files and books, killer heels that are appropriate for work and that sort of stuff... The hunt was fun as we got to spend time with each other... 

I think that's about it... for now :-)

Again, friends and family members, u are all invited and wish us good luck... :-)