Last week, I participated in a program named "Seiring Menuju Syurga" (SMS)... It was the first actual activity I took part in since I first entered Politeknik Sultan Mizan Zainal Abidin last month... Before that, I spent most of my working hours surfing the net and playing games... 

Well, the program was basically a long (but fun) lecture on how to salvage your marriage or to make long lasting... At first, judging from the program title, I thought that it would be so lame... However, the lecturer was so loud and comical that I listened to him for 4 hours plus without having the tendency to fall asleep...

Let me enlighten u with one of the main points of the lecture with a true story told by the lecturer... 

"Once, there was a husband who was so eager to divorce his wife because he couldn't stand her anymore... Therefore, he went to a Tok Kadi who was one of his close friends to smooth out the process... But, the Tok Kadi was handling so many divorce cases and marriages at that moment and so, he would only be able to settle the husband's divorce file in a week's time... The husband was so frustrated at first but he finally agreed to wait... Before he went home, the Tok Kadi asked him to promise to do one thing... He asked the husband to treat his wife like a queen before he come again to settle his divorce file next week... The husband was reluctant but the Tok Kadi insisted... One week later, the Tok Kadi waited for the husband to come to his office but he never showed up... Therefore, he called the husband to check on him... He was surprised when the husband answered the call and told him that at the moment, he's at Langkawi with his wife, having their second honeymoon... He told the Tok Kadi that ever since he treated his wife like a queen, the wife has been treating him like a king..."

So, one of the points highlighted by the lecturer was "What u give, u get back"... If u treat ur spouse like shit, she/he will treat u like shit too and vice versa... 

Therefore, if ur marriage is not working out, instead of pointing fingers and blaming others, just look at yourself and search for ur own wrong doings... Before u try to change others, try to change your bad habits first...